How to win friends and influence people

These are few good collections from one of the most best selling books of the 19th century "How to win friends and influence people" by Dale Carnegie .Thought it is worth sharing in our blog too , so that this useful information may reach the mass , visiting our blog.

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In a nutshell - 

Fundamental Techniques In Handling People

• Principle 1 Don't criticize, condemn or complain.
• Principle 2 Give honest and sincere appreciation.
• Principle 3 Arouse in the other person an eager want.



Six Ways To Make People Like You

• Principle 1 - Become genuinely interested in other people.
• Principle 2 - Smile.
• Principle 3 - Remember that a person's name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language.
• Principle 4 - Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.
• Principle 5 - Talk in terms of the other person's interests.
• Principle 6 - Make the other person feel important-and do it sincerely.


Win People To Your Way Of Thinking

• Principle 1 The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it.
• Principle 2 Show respect for the other person's opinions. Never say, "You're wrong."
• Principle 3 If you are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically.
• Principle 4 Begin in a friendly way.
• Principle 5 Get the other person saying "yes, yes" immediately.
• Principle 6 Let the other person do a great deal of the talking.
• Principle 7 Let the other person feel that the idea is his or hers.
• Principle 8 Try honestly to see things from the other person's point of view.
• Principle 9 Be sympathetic with the other person's ideas and desires.
• Principle 10 Appeal to the nobler motives.
• Principle 11 Dramatize your ideas.
• Principle 12 Throw down a challenge.

Be A Leader
A leader's job often includes changing your people's attitudes and behavior. Some suggestions to accomplish this:
• Principle 1 - Begin with praise and honest appreciation.
• Principle 2 - Call attention to people's mistakes indirectly.
• Principle 3 - Talk about your own mistakes before criticizing the other person.
• Principle 4 - Ask questions instead of giving direct orders.
• Principle 5 - Let the other person save face.
• Principle 6 - Praise the slightest improvement and praise every improvement. Be "hearty in your approbation and lavish in your praise."
• Principle 7 - Give the other person a fine reputation to live up to.
• Principle 8 - Use encouragement. Make the fault seem easy to correct.
• Principle 9 - Make the other person happy about doing the thing you suggest.

Seven Rules For Making Your Home Life Happier
• Rule 1: Don't nag.
• Rule 2: Don't try to make your partner over.
• Rule 3: Don't criticize.
• Rule 4: Give honest appreciation.
• Rule 5: Pay little attentions.
• Rule 6: Be courteous.
• Rule 7: Read a good book on the sexual side of marriage.

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What I want to acheive in my life

Have I achieved what I want

Yes, you may have answered this question some time or many times in your life and would have brain stormed for hours or days or even months !! Not a simple decision to take isn't it.

Some of us may be wise enough to think what we want to become , what we want to achieve in this short life which god has gifted us. But we get to see some people around us who do not know what they want to become in their lives , what they want to achieve before they leave the Earth ! They get influenced by others sayings, thoughts and follow doing things blindly even which they don't love to do and just remain as just another bum

Yes, lets stress on the point what we want to achieve during our wonderful life before we die. We are sure this is one decision which has transformed thousands of minds and has helped many to plan and achieve their dreams and kept them moving.  So let me ask you 5 questions, take your time and try to answer them in a sheet of paper

1. What are your dreams,  be it any matter you wish to achieve before you die ?
2. Are you capable of achieving it within your life time , if yes within what time. ?
3. Is this what you want is your passion, you love doing it and even ready to die working for it?
4. Have you achieved it , if not are you working towards it ?
5. Do you know beforehand when you may die , after 70 years ? after 50 years ? after 2 years ? after 10 days ? tomorrow ? !!!! 

Your answers to these questions are inputs for designing your own successful life . Remember , you are only successful when you achieve what you had loved to do and become in your life which you dreamt to achieve. 

Share your experience on how above questions have changed you or others .. Ask these questions to your loved ones who are in need to design their life especially the youth and children . 

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A story on Gubbi Veeranna professionalism

Gubbi Veeranna played an important role in developing Kannada Art theatres. During his days, contribution to theatres was enormous and was at the height of success. Of those his “KuruSkethra” skit is one of the most popular ones. The costumes, casting, theatre stage setup for this skit  was very elegant. The skit play used to be so effective that one may feel the real kuruskethra is happening on the stage live. The celebrations, thrill which this skit play used to generate was enormous , such a performance never would be reproduced in future. It was very popular among mass.  Based on requests to perform this skit in Andhra Pradesh, stages were setup there in Telugu language also and got praises from the mass there. It was so effective that , the news spread and reached the Nizam of Hyderabad (Nawab / King of few territories) .

The Nizam was very curious to view this Skit and decided to make arrangements in his palace. He informed his subordinates to personally invite Gubbi Veeranna to perform with his team at the palace. Gubbi Veeranna denied this request saying, “It would be very difficult to arrange the stage at palace and requires lot of preparations, hence it would be nice if the Nizam and his subordinates themselves come over to the theatre and experience the skit. We would make necessary arrangements such that their family can enjoy the skit”. 

Hearing to this Nizam would have felt angry, but still his curiousness to view the skit kept him going. The sub-ordinates were worried whether Veeranna would be able to greet the Nizam properly and in right manners. As scheduled, on one day , the Nizam visited with his family to Gubbi Veeranna Skit stage and was astonished to see the preparations made for him.

The place where Nizam car would park was greeted with a red carpet , On the carpet sides the skit cast artists who had worn traditional dress greeted Nizam’s family members hovering scented flowers .  Later at front musicians greeted with bands & traditional music. The Nizam and his family were surprised and astonished for this unexpected respect.

Later the Nizam watched the full skit with concentration. Once the skit play was over , he praised whole heartedly Gubbi Veeranna and his team performance. On the same stage he dictated Gubbi Veeranna as “Karanataka Andhra Nataka Sarvabouma” and arranged a ceremony & greeted him with due respects

Such was the professionalism of Gubbi Veeranna. We have not come across such incidents later after the demise of this great person.  Veeranna’s commitment towards work , overcoming problem skills, Patience , Intelligence , work professionalism acts were legendary. If anyone develops the same characters in their respective work nature, they are sure to come out as great stars.

An interesting story behind Railway lines width 4.85 feets

In Indian railways system, the width between the railway parallel lines was of 4 types. In the old narrow gauge, the width maintained was 2.6 feet. Later in the meter gauge period , the width became 3.3 feet and later in standard gauge it became 4.85 feet and now in the broad gauge it is 5.8 feet.  

There is a reason behind providing this information. In America also the width maintained is 4.85 feet. This is a very unique number. It could have been either 4 feet or 5 feet. Have you ever wondered why is this ? There is one interesting history story behind this.

As American railways was earlier built by English men those who built in England, same methods were followed. Then question is why in England they used 4.85 feet ? In England , before railways trams were used. Later the same width for followed for railways also. Now the question again , why 4.85 feet in trams?

Just like in Europe, in England earlier roads were made by Romans. In those days , laborers who used to make the wheels for Horse vehicles were involved in making tram wheels. Hence the width was maintained same. Now why 4.85 feet for horse vehicles ?

Earlier Romans used 2 horses for their vehicles. They observed earlier the space between two horses was congested and the horse backs were getting hurt during travel. So they kept increasing the width slowly, when the width was more , during travel the vehicle used to have jerks . Hence to maintain balance , such that the horses backs should not get hurt and also avoid jerks a standard measurement was followed. That measurement is 4.85 feet !!

So now you will be surprised – Romans horse vehicles were designed to take care of horse backs, which were then followed in England.  As the same laborers were involved in tram wheel making, same width was maintained , then same was followed in railway by England and then in America. So even in India , earlier in the 18^th , 19^th century , railways was developed by England and hence the 4.85 width !

What a surprising story, one of the worlds common transport system railway lines width is based on the width of 2 horses backs !!  This makes us realize once that,  changing human mind’s decision & its resistance is very difficult sometimes!

Hope you enjoyed & remember this article when you pick up a train next time  !!

Chanakya Neethi - part 1

Chanakya Neethi - Part 1 - quotes

1) A wise person will come to grief if he does the unwise acts of giving good advice to a foolish pupil. looking after a woman of loose character and keeping the company of a sad one who has lost his fortune

2) It is a living death to stay in a house where there is an evil natured , badmouthing woman of low morals , or a cunning and deceitful friend , or an impolite talkative servant , or a possibility of the presence of a snake.

3) For the bad days one should save money. Woman should be protected even if it takes the money saved. But for self-preservation , the money and the woman should be sacrificed if required.

4) For hard times and to deal with troubles, a man must protect his wealth because the one who has money , he can overcome hurdles easily. The money , if not protected slips away fast.

5) Do not live in a country that does not allow you , self respect , honor , means of living , a family , kith and kin, friends , well  wishers , ways of education and self-development, Quit such country . It is not fit for living.

6) A man should not make a place his home where there are no , prosperous people , soldiers, scholarly Brahmins, a king , river and physicians.

7) The testing times of the following are as , the wife when the money is gone, the friend in the time of need , the relatives in times  of crisis and the servants when they are assigned a mission. In such times they show their true faces.

8) A real brother is one stands by , in the period of grave illness, in times of misfortune , during famines or invasions by enemy , in royal court and in death. He will stick through thick and thin.

9) The one who runs after an uncertain object leaving the certain one , does not get any. He loses the both.

10) A wise man must marry a girl of high breed even if she is ugly to look at. He should not fall for a girl of low upbringing however beauteous she may be . The best course is to marry in the family of equal status.

11) If there is nectar in poison , accept it. If there is precious metal or object in filth, retrieve it. If a low breed man has some good knowledge , wisdom , art or quality , imbibe it. If a woman born to a family of disrepute turns out to be a lady of high qualities , possess such a gem.

12) Only great penance can earn one , the rich food to eat , a good digestive power to dispose it , a beautiful woman for wife , and virility to ravish her and riches with charitable disposition to use the money for good causes.

13) This very earth is heaven for those whose son is obedient , the wife is faithful and whose own heart is content with that money he has got.

14) The true son is one who is obedient to his father , a true father is one who looks after his son. similarly true friend is one who is trustworthy and true wife is one who makes her husband happy.

15) A friend who talks flatteringly sweet things overtly but covertly tries to harm should be gotten rid of without any delay. He is like a pot that is filled with poison but is topped with cream to deceive.

16) Those parents are worst enemies of their children , who do not teach them letters and educate them. Because an uneducated person is spurned in the assembly  of the learned people. He is total misfit as a crane is in the flock of stately swans.

17) Too much indulgence spoils a child , Rebuke and cane helps in the development of the child . So , the children and the students must be kept straight through the use of stick and rebuke. Don't indulge them.

18) Never let any day go without some study of a written word. One should make his day fruitful by doing some good work and study.

19) One who befriends a person of a bad character, a person of bad intentions , a person who is sinner or a person who lives at an evil place , gets destroyed in quick time.

20) The following things burns a man without fire and silently eat him, the separation from wife , contempt by kith and kin , serving an evil master , indebtedness, poverty and living among selfish and rogue people.